Having a baby changes everything. Whether you decided to go back to work or stay at home with your babies, either decision requires a transition because, let’s face it, NOTHING is the same once our tiny humans enter the picture. While some debate the pros and cons of each, I am of the opinion that there is no right or wrong answer. The decision is inherently personal based on each individual’s situation. Some go back to work because they have to, others because they want to. Some become stay at home moms when prior to the baby’s arrival, they could never see themselves doing so. Regardless, it is moms who face the most transition in relation to maintaining a work-life balance when the little ones come along. The goal shouldn’t be to have it “all.” Instead, the goal should be to find your voice, tell your story, and live a life that allows you to use your purpose to create change in your families and community.
Every person has a longing to be significant; to make a contribution; to be a part of something noble and purposeful. John C. Maxwell
8 ACTIONS FOR MOMS IN TRANSITION: PURPOSE TO PAYCHECK
1: BELIEVE IN WHAT YOU ARE DOING
First and foremost, believe in the decision you have made. Nobody knows your situation better than you, and you do not owe an explanation as to why you have decided to go back to work or stay at home. The most important thing is to honor YOUR priorities and do what is best for you and your family.
2: IDENTIFY YOUR PASSION
Each one of us has gifts and talents that are unique to us. There has never been and never will be another YOU. You have something amazing to offer this world. The more you deny the world of your story, the more you are not living in alignment with your purpose. In the past 3 years, I have discovered that I have a passion to help other women identify areas where they are stuck so that they can move forward. These are motivated, confident, talented women. Tapping in to your passion will impact all areas of life. You’ll get up earlier. Be more creative. Crush your to do list. Plus, the right intention leads to the right action and creates crazy results!
2: OVERCOME LIMITING BELIEFS
Limiting beliefs are the small voice in your head telling you you can’t. Once you identify the source of those limiting beliefs, you can crush them and kick fear to the curb. We all face fear at one point or another, but when it holds you back, that is the problem. Acknowledging that fear does not come from love can help you face it. Instead of letting fear stop you, you should be willing to learn through the fear and embrace the love that the world has for you. Embrace where you are at this point in life and use it as s tool to move you forward.
3: CAPITALIZE ON THE SKILLS YOU HAVE LEARNED AS A MOM
Conflict management. Budgeting. Management. Inventory. Multitasking. Teaching. Social planning. Scheduling. These are all amazing skills we moms use in the blink of an eye every single day. These skills are transferrable. Talk them up!
4: UTILIZE THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
The law of attraction is powerful stuff! We live in a world of negativity and gloom and doom. When you think about negative things, that’s all you’ll see. When you focus on what you DO want to have happen, it’s funny how things can start to align for you. Start a daily gratitude journal to record the GOOD things that you are happy for each day. The more you focus on the good, the more it will appear in your life.
5: LEARN TO SAY NO AND FOCUS ON KEY PRIORITIES
Identify your key priorities and use those as the gauge against which you base your decisions. There is no utopian balance to achieve. Truly, having it “all” isn’t realistic, and, quite frankly, would leave us feeling overwhelmed. Every choice has a sacrifice. Get comfortable with uncomfortable feelings (guilt for not being home for dinner, fear of not doing it right, discomfort of being judged for a messy house). You can have it all but not all at the same time.
6: IDENTIFY OBJECTIVES CLEARLY SO THE UNIVERSE CAN DELIVER
Crystal clear goals get results. Vague hopes don’t. Be realistic about your goals and how much time you actually have to attain them. If you have 4 hours/week to devote to yourself while your child is in daycare — don’t expect to do all your errands, exercise and look for a job. If you haven’t worked for a while, you may need some time for pure self care before you launch into the job search.
7: TAKE A CHANCE
And trust that an opening will occur. Sometimes to achieve great things, we need to act before we know how to “do.” Think about riding a bike. The best way to learn how is to do it. All the instruction in the world won’t help you in the actual act of riding the bike. Instead of waiting until the time is right or the kids reach a certain point, take action toward your goals now. You can’t know the end before you begin. Even if you don’t know what’s next, there is something powerful in having faith and taking the leap. That’s when greatness occurs.
8: EMBRACE THE HARD
Being a mom is hard work. Stay at home mom—hard work. Working mom—hard work. Single mom—hard work. Being a mom isn’t easy, but it’s also really hard to lose touch with your purpose. Embrace the journey of motherhood without losing YOU in the process. That’s the hardest part. Turning our purpose into a paycheck so we can contribute to our family and live out or purpose with passion-filled days is beyond rewarding! Now is the best time for mompreneurs to build a business – doing what they love while being present for the ones they love most.